Morgan BellShifting Responsibility Back To The Perpetrator
October 12th 2009 13:25
Do you want a breath of fresh air from all the "blame the victim" rhetoric surrounding sexual assault of late (or of always)?
Have a read of this list. It has been doing the rounds of the Feminist blog sites. Original author unknown. If you are the mastermind who put this list together please let me know in comments, I would love to give credit where credit's due.
Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work!
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are commiting a crime — no matter how “into it” others appear to be.
Why is a list like this important?
Because every time a footballer, performer, or hollywood director is in the news for raping a woman (or girl, or even sometimes a boy) someone inevitably tries to turn the tables and say "yeah but she was promiscuous" or "what was she doing there in the first place". Someone will bring up her character, or her clothes, or her lifestyle, or her race, or her sexual history.
None of that matters.
The people that are really in a position to stop the incidence of sexual assault are the perpetrators. They need to be accountable. They need to change their ways. And we need to stop making excuses for them.
Teach your sons and daughters about consent, respect, and personal space. When a public figure is charged with rape dont say "she must have been a slut", say "he was wrong to do that, it is unacceptable, offensive, anti-social, illegal, immoral, traumatic and harmful behaviour".
Blow the whistle on the perpetrators, its the best form of self defense.
Have a read of this list. It has been doing the rounds of the Feminist blog sites. Original author unknown. If you are the mastermind who put this list together please let me know in comments, I would love to give credit where credit's due.
Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work!
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are commiting a crime — no matter how “into it” others appear to be.
Why is a list like this important?
Because every time a footballer, performer, or hollywood director is in the news for raping a woman (or girl, or even sometimes a boy) someone inevitably tries to turn the tables and say "yeah but she was promiscuous" or "what was she doing there in the first place". Someone will bring up her character, or her clothes, or her lifestyle, or her race, or her sexual history.
None of that matters.
The people that are really in a position to stop the incidence of sexual assault are the perpetrators. They need to be accountable. They need to change their ways. And we need to stop making excuses for them.
Teach your sons and daughters about consent, respect, and personal space. When a public figure is charged with rape dont say "she must have been a slut", say "he was wrong to do that, it is unacceptable, offensive, anti-social, illegal, immoral, traumatic and harmful behaviour".
Blow the whistle on the perpetrators, its the best form of self defense.
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